Here are some questions you can ask yourself to see whether your “helping” behavior may actually be co-dependency:
– Do you have a hard time saying no to others, even when you are very busy, financially broke, or completely exhausted?
– Are you always sacrificing your own needs for everyone else?
– Do you feel more worthy as a human being because you have taken on a helping role?
– If you stopped helping your friends, would you feel guilty or worthless?
– Would you know how to be in a friendship that doesn’t revolve around you being the “helper”?
– If your friends eventually didn’t need your help, would you still be friends with them? Or would you look around for someone else to help?
– Do you feel resentful when others are not grateful enough to you for your efforts at rescuing them or fixing their lives?
– Do you sometimes feel like more of a social worker than a friend in your relationships?
– Do you feel uncomfortable receiving help from other people? Is the role of helping others a much more natural role for you to play in your relationships?
– Does it seem as if many of your friends have particularly chaotic lives, with one crisis after another?
– Did you grow up in a family that had a lot of emotional chaos or addiction problems?