Are Your Relationships Codependent?

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Here are some questions you can ask yourself to see whether your “helping” behavior may actually be co-dependency:

– Do you have a hard time saying no to others, even when you are very busy, financially broke, or completely exhausted?

– Are you always sacrificing your own needs for everyone else?

– Do you feel more worthy as a human being because you have taken on a helping role?

– If you stopped helping your friends, would you feel guilty or worthless?

– Would you know how to be in a friendship that doesn’t revolve around you being the “helper”?

– If your friends eventually didn’t need your help, would you still be friends with them?  Or would you look around for someone else to help?

– Do you feel resentful when others are not grateful enough to you for your efforts at rescuing them or fixing their lives?

– Do you sometimes feel like more of a social worker than a friend in your relationships?

– Do you feel uncomfortable receiving help from other people?  Is the role of helping others a much more natural role for you to play in your relationships?

– Does it seem as if many of your friends have particularly chaotic lives, with one crisis after another?

– Did you grow up in a family that had a lot of emotional chaos or addiction problems?

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